The first step of a journey to a friendship is what we call the
accident or
unintentional. If you really put your minds and think back on how did you form that wonderful relationship with "
that" friend of yours, i tell you, you are going to be very
nostalgic.
Because it turns out when you first met that
stranger, it could just be a simple encounter and may not seem significantly memorable at all. But alas, look at where you guys are now. Quoted from an inspiring article,
"How many best friends and lovers have you been missing everyday on that bus or train ride to work, or whilst lining up to get lunch, or when you’re browsing for books in that favourite bookstore of yours?"
Just like the author of the line wrote that, it will send down chill in your spine thinking back of how the first time you've met. Furthermore that line there took me out from my slumber by some degree in
realizing of how ignorant I and we are towards the
simplest of things. Just because they are
strangers, doesn't mean they couldn't be our next best friend?
While i was Google-ing for references writing about them, wikipedia turns out with the best answers as always. How to value your best friends? Get this points up to your brain now, and think back that are you really doing the best for your 'bestie'.
Best for the other - Have you been supporting on what they do?
Honesty - Are you honest enough to point out the mistakes of your friends?
Sympathy and
Empathy - This is supposed to be 2nd of most important value
Mutual Understanding - It's okay if you don't agree with your best friend, but the support must be there.
Trust - Should i say anything on this? (This is the fundamental thing that makes you guys best friends)
Reciprocity - What is this? ( A relationship based on equal give and take between each parties)
All of that above is some research i did over Google. Now I am going to write about my own opinion about friendship.
Friends, or not friends, lab partners or just your group mates , they are equally the same. All desire company. But from accompanying each other, how and what makes you
stick to each other? The issue I kept seeing amongst many is in the last point of value towards your best friends.
Reciprocal.
You may have heard this term used in your calculus and mathematics but this doesn't mean it doesn't
exist in friendships. What you give is what you get. If you put the
this much effort towards something, you would want
this much result yes? So the thing is, be fair to him/her.
After all, it couldn't be hard to reply that one or two message you felt not important to reply. Or perhaps that one or two call you canceled and forget to get back to it because you're busy.
Most of the time and always, these
little little things count.
In norm of situations, people
complain that their best friends are
neglecting them or
ignoring them. Some of this couldn't be avoided because we grow up and stuff.
But remember, the best of friends is not always there when you want it, but rather will be there when you need it. Sure, you haven't contacted your 'bestie' for quite awhile, so why not start the conversation rather than wait for the other party to do so?
It's all give and take, and if your not happy because you're the only one that usually concerned for the other, say it to him/her. A good friend
would and
should understand.
Lastly, i would say that to measure a best friend is
not how frequent you are contacting or spending time with him/her. It's rather the
'feel good' energy you when you're with them and when they support you.
References:
http://www.themalaysianinsider.com/opinion/article/strangers-and-best-friends/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friendship
Inspiring sources:
http://www.quotegarden.com/best-friends.html (Quotation on best friends)
I dedicate this to
Amirul Ashraf R-Syrup
and my other groups of friends.
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