How affections affects your decision's effects.

Hi all. It's me, Shazzy. It's been a while eh? If anyone is even reading this. I'm too lazy to colour in words and put pictures in and all that so I'll keep this plain.

I have been curious lately at the effects of affections in our daily lives. Most would believe that having affections means a better life but some do not understand that affections can effect your decision making skills and it can also alters the outcome of many, many events that are to occur soon. Seriously, affections might be sweet but it is a thorn.

True, affections make you feel like you own the world. Like everything you do is for something. Like everything you do have a reason. Like everything you say is meaningful. Especially if that affection is someone of opposite sex that you treasure, or your family, the two persons you're most in debt to - your parents.

But it can also do you harm. It can consume your time, your money, you focus. You tend to do stupid weird things than normal when you have an affection towards something, or someone. 

I serve as a reminder. Remember that however much your affections are, don't do stupid weird things. Know your limits. Know your right and wrongs. Care for those who care for you. Choose the right friends. Don't waste your life. Life is to be lived, not wasted.

Shazmeel 'Samad' Azeman

Best friends and how you are without them

The first step of a journey to a friendship is what we call the accident or unintentional. If you really put your minds and think back on how did you form that wonderful relationship with "that" friend of yours, i tell you, you are going to be very nostalgic.

Because it turns out when you first met that stranger, it could just be a simple encounter and may not seem significantly memorable at all. But alas, look at where you guys are now. Quoted from an inspiring article,

"How many best friends and lovers have you been missing everyday on that bus or train ride to work, or whilst lining up to get lunch, or when you’re browsing for books in that favourite bookstore of yours?"

Just like the author of the line wrote that, it will send down chill in your spine thinking back of how the first time you've met. Furthermore that line there took me out from my slumber by some degree in realizing of how ignorant I and we are towards the simplest of things. Just because they are strangers, doesn't mean they couldn't be our next best friend?

While i was Google-ing for references writing about them, wikipedia turns out with the best answers as always. How to value your best friends? Get this points up to your brain now, and think back that are you really doing the best for your 'bestie'.

Best for the other - Have you been supporting on what they do?
Honesty - Are you honest enough to point out the mistakes of your friends?
Sympathy and Empathy - This is supposed to be 2nd of most important value
Mutual Understanding - It's okay if you don't agree with your best friend, but the support must be there.
Trust - Should i say anything on this? (This is the fundamental thing that makes you guys best friends)
Reciprocity - What is this? ( A relationship based on equal give and take between each parties)

All of that above is some research i did over Google. Now I am going to write about my own opinion about friendship.

Friends, or not friends, lab partners or just your group mates , they are equally the same. All desire company. But from accompanying each other, how and what makes you stick to each other? The issue I kept seeing amongst many is in the last point of value towards your best friends. Reciprocal.

You may have heard this term used in your calculus and mathematics but this doesn't mean it doesn't exist in friendships. What you give is what you get. If you put the this much effort towards something, you would want this much result yes? So the thing is, be fair to him/her. After all, it couldn't be hard to reply that one or two message you felt not important to reply. Or perhaps that one or two call you canceled and forget to get back to it because you're busy. Most of the time and always, these little little things count.


In norm of situations, people complain that their best friends are neglecting them or ignoring them. Some of this couldn't be avoided because we grow up and stuff. But remember, the best of friends is not always there when you want it, but rather will be there when you need it. Sure, you haven't contacted your 'bestie' for quite awhile, so why not start the conversation rather than wait for the other party to do so? It's all give and take, and if your not happy because you're the only one that usually concerned for the other, say it to him/her. A good friend would and should understand.

Lastly, i would say that to measure a best friend is not how frequent you are contacting or spending time with him/her. It's rather the 'feel good' energy you when you're with them and when they support you. 

References:
http://www.themalaysianinsider.com/opinion/article/strangers-and-best-friends/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friendship

Inspiring sources:
http://www.quotegarden.com/best-friends.html (Quotation on best friends)

I dedicate this to Amirul Ashraf R-Syrup
and my other groups of friends.

*Was it inspiring? If it was and you think that it is, feel free to leave a comment.*

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, and.... No. That is NOT it.

"What does this mean?"

Language. One thing that is potentially the smartest thing ever created. However, is it complete? I wonder.

Tell me moreeee!!


Chill dude. Well, I'm a Malaysian and we Malaysian speak Malay. We use the English alphabet however. But without being biased, I think my language is pretty cool. This is because we have slang language, we use it far more frequently than the 'book language' or so we say it. 'Book language' means the real real language written in the Malay language text books and so on. Which, sounds cool when you type it but sounds a bit weird when you pronounce it. So with this slang language that we have, we have a lot of directly translated words or words that are not entirely correctly translated but still deliver the meaning of the word.


A few examples that I'm interested in is 'Geli'. This word have two meanings. One is ticklish, and another one is the feeling of disgust, or some sort. See? Even I can't really translate it that well. My little brother once asked me, "What does 'Geli' mean in English?" he said. I took a moment to think, then replied with a facial expression topped by "Eww!". See?
For me and most Malaysians that seems to be the most precise way to describe that word and whenever I say that, people would go 'Geli' is disgusted 'lah'! Then I would say "No, disgusted is more like..." I paused. Then continued, "Ee!" again, with a facial expression of disgust. 


But I definitely can't say all that if this is to be asked in an examination can I? So at the end of the day I had to settle with disgust even though it disgusts me to think that 'Geli'  means disgust...

Perceiving Unpredictable Events, Focusing A Lot on Relationships.

Those were the exact phrase that Yozs told me to write about. So here it is. I will write about perceiving unpredictable events, focusing a lot on relationships. Honestly, I don't know what I am to talk about but here goes nothing. 

So in this life, there are a lot of unknowns. The big ifs. This sucks. I mean, honestly, I would love to know everything that's going to happen to me so I can at least plan on what to do next or what to do when something happens to me. But now that I need to focus a lot on relationships, there are smaller ifs but still, it is a huge number which again, sucks.

So similar, yet so different. This symbolizes differences.

Sorry to interrupt, but what do you mean? I am not getting what you're trying to say here.

Patience is key Mister Narrator. I am about to elaborate. I think. This is hard because I honestly don't know what Yozs wants. He talked about 'Plausible' and 'Plausibly'. Haha I really don't know what he meant when he said "Is it plausibly her?" But he seemed to think that it was something cool and stuff. But I am trying to talk about how things can get really unpredictable in a relationship. One of them, in my opinion is everything that differentiate between the man and the woman. I am not saying that every differences bring about the worse in a relationship because at times, it is differences between the two that molds them together.

Sometimes, when we do not talk about each other for long enough with each other, we would not know what they other person are like in reality. Much like when you look down into a pond of water. You see everything that are on the surface, but you don't see what's beneath the surface. Get what I mean? When you don't know what the other person is like, the chances for an unpredictable event to occur is higher. So my advice to you would be learn about your partner or don't get a partner if you can't do that. We don't need more broken hearted people in this world. There are enough sad people living in this planet. I can't bear to see more of them.

As Yozs mentioned, (probably the first thing I agree with Yozs) we should not give others false hope. Because false hope can really kill someone. It can really break someone dearly. But how to perceive all this? We should see it as something that is negative. It is not a good thing and never is. So why do it? Why do it to others? Some people believe in karma, and according to karma, good things are rewarded with good things and vice versa. So if you do good deeds, you get people doing good deeds to you.

That is really all I can say about this. I literally worked my brain out until I get a little headache for this post. Seriously. Not joking this time. I am saying this with full seriousness. 

Okay maybe a little joke just to make you guys smile a bit. :)

Babai all! Until next time!

Er, thanks Shazzy. But I still don't understand why you wrote this. Perhaps Yozs is to blame? It sure seems like it.

You bet Mister Narrator. :)

Plausible?

Where did our puppeteers disappear? Did the blog went a-wall or a conflict of interest occurred? Let's hope not. But here we are back again with a brief explanation from them.

Oh, hi there readers! Sorry for the long period of not up-to-date news or posts. We just had a long holiday called as semester break. Haha, yes. We sure did had a good period of carefree time without any knowledge and concern of our hectic everyday lives. Well most of it I guess. (You didn't think we would left ya'll on purpose do ya?)


So, today would be something more different than the previous posts we had done. And yes, if you are wondering about the misunderstanding before i had with my colleague, well.. (*&^%!). Just kidding. I would just want to state out that yes, my post are quite unstructured and unorganized. And I'm not that kind of avid writers. It seems i also have trouble in a sense of pointing out clearly my opinions in my words.. But, that's something I'll have to work on later.

Plausible? (I Hope So)

Once I had a friend. Yes once. A friend like no other. We didn't accidentally met on dumb luck but rather a way which was occasionally intended. Well at least for me, i consider that kind of meeting of two individuals is  sorta like fate related.

Meeting her was just a coincidence (Yes it's the opposite gender), But getting to know the other person quite well is not. Maybe they say it is because of the atmosphere and surrounding where you have been placed at to encourage the relationship to bloom. I don't think so. Like once my friend said, "It's either you will, or will not". Well, you all get the point yes? I could just have stayed away from it and considering living on my life as normal.

I would like to describe more of the particular details but it'll just be too long and draggy. Skipping this part, we'll jump to the section where I can no longer call her a friend. (Well at least if i still can) I don't really know if we really had that chemistry, or everybody is treated like that by her. But, encouraging people with false hope is really a bad thing, the worst. Sure if you meant it to be as a good gesture or whatever you wanna call it. It doesn't matter how good your intention is or if you don't mean it, the other party will feel that they had been played with.

Particularly, I don't really blame her for whatever happened. Some people just have that way with every other person they meet. All the sensitive talks and issues forwarded to a person is just too much for a relation with only the status of "friends". Well, not to the point that it ticks the persons brains to actually think that is is Plausible?

Is it plausibly her? Are at any cases where we would plausibly go any further? Your mind at this stage (particularly mine) could jump from the most wonderful to the impossible. Well I'll tell you what. All that  effort in that brain of mine went to waste when i got that signal from her saying, "Don't hope too much".

My beloved friend?

What would you feel?

Yozs - F310 acoustic!

P/s: Comments are deeply appreciated while opinions will be savored and revised with detail. So please do.

A puppeteer for another. How will Shazzy react to the story had been blurted out by Yozs? Problems people face are ought to be solved on way or another. With a little bit of help from others, the world could be a wondrous place.

Trust Thrusts Trust.

"Dad, you know I can die if you didn't catch me, right?"

Like a newborn child who trusts their father when they're thrown upward, like the passengers of a car trusting the driver to make sure of their safety, like the people who trusts Google to always have the answer to their questions. Those are the ways on how to describe trust, because trust in words is really hard to describe. However, the dictionary meaning to trust is simply have confidence or faith in something or someone. Now think logic, does trust exist between you and me? Do you trust me? Maybe that's too big a question to answer as of now, because you don't really know me. But in life, sometimes that is the kind of question or situations you have to deal with from time to time. Can you really trust someone? No matter an old friend or a person you just met.

"Trust is always an uncertainty."

"Hi, I'm a salesperson. I sell stuff."

Much like a salesperson who walks up to you and introduces themselves as a salesperson. How would you react? Would you trust this guy? Like honestly, would you? Okay so he may seem friendly and all that, but is he really? That is the big question. I have learned before that one of the way of knowing is by using our 5 senses and our mind to decide on certain things. But sometimes intuition comes to and play a part in this big puzzle.

"You git me some worms to eat? Ya be thinkin' Imma chickin!?"

For in life, nothing is certain. Who knew that salesperson would be the same as this chicken above? Who would've thought that behind the 'good' face that he showed, he's actually a leader of the chicken gangster mafia clan? We don't. That's why it is particularly hard to see whether we trust someone or not.


What I'm tryna say here is that, unlike Yozs post, my post is actually more constructive. I find one of his paragraph... quite 'improper' or so to say. At one point I started to forgot about what he was talking about. :p

But with my own experience, I have experience three difficult relationships. One of them being a long-distance relationship. Now trust is vital in this kinds of relationships. But I don't  really want to talk about love and all that in this blog right here. You can find that enclosed in my own blog right here. As for friendships, I would like to point out that in all kinds of friends there are in this world (normal, pretend, best friend and so on), trust would at some point, be induced out of the heart of oneself towards the other. 


So in the end of the day, I would like to conclude by saying that trust is a human nature. It comes naturally with us, maybe not since the day we were born but at some point in life, we will come to the state of producing trust unknowingly - and sometimes, unwillingly. 


P/s: I would like to point out that Yozs stole MY idea for the new post and unknowingly, he posted it before I did. It was supposed to be my post. Or at the very least, a post discussing our thoughts on the topic. But he just had to go and post it all on  his own. -_______________________-'


They both have their own stories to tell don't they? An interesting fact though, it is said that Shazzy Azeman got the idea of writing about 'trust' from Googling his friend's blog and this one post seemed to inspire him. If you are interested, the post is here. Also, Yozs and Shazzy are surely eager to know your side of the story. So, do you trust 'trust'? Leave a comment if you got the time!


.Shazmeel 'Samad' Azeman

Trust

And yes, now there's another story is about to unfold. Well, it's not much of a story i guess. So here, i think the title speaks louder than our description. What written next may or may not be fiction and keep in mind, that it's only our opinion that's about to be blurted out.

So, today was just another Monday. Like any typical Mondays, the first day of the week just scares me out. Well, there was supposed to be a talk on my individual assignment for our class. Haha. And yeah, we had a short exam for awhile after that. Skipping all the details, i'll jump

towards end conclusion of this story. I had been thinking about what to write today and it seems Shazzy has taken a step further. He came showing me the tiny sticky note on his lappy* (for windows7 users) on about what to write for today.

So there it is!

So what about trust? Is it something like you can touch? Hold on to? I think all of us hope we could. (Don't you?) But the sad truth is, as you all know.. is a big fat no. Something abstract like this may be to difficult for many to understand, but easy to grasp. I know what is trust in the physical terms do most people actually practice them based on what they say?

Trust is just a huge meaningful word.

In my opinion, (Haha! it sounds like an essay)

Trust is like water. Water in a stream of river. The stream at times has an unpredictable current. Sometimes it's vigorous and sometimes it's calm and ease our minds. We could feel the sensation on our hands when the water flows through our fingers. Life grows with it and plant prospers with it's presence. In other sense, trust is just an essence of life.

Well, that's all about the good part of it. On the other hands, water corrodes things inside them for being in it for too long. And water evaporates easily and it could be there and begone in an instant.

(Dude! Can u just get straight to the point please?)

Chill out readers. This is where i explain to ya'll about the what-the-abstract-heck part. It's quite ambiguous* ya know, and it's quite hard to explain..

Well, for me, I've experienced few numbers of trust based relationship for the past few years I've lived. Honestly speaking, there is very few numbers people out there you could lay down the trust category on them. Trust in relationships is the number one factor of what even makes your relationship with them. (Not talking about your personal relationships, but.. yeah you could include this too) Sometimes, at rare cases, even your very very very trusted person/a friend could really agitate you and causes a discomfort such as fighting over disagreements.

Yeah, but remember. What ever they may do or say, trust them for just not being them at the moment. Livewith-it. When you are trusted you feel all cozy inside but if not, you'll feel betrayed. Being trusted for quite awhile can create doubt over a certain period where you and the other person is not together. Whilst trust can be instantly disappear over a single dumb action which u accidentally make or not.

That's all from me for today, i'll be back =)

Yozs - coconuts♥

*lappy - laptop

*ambiguous - uncertain

P/s: Shazzy's a bit unhappy that he haven't getting comments lately. Please, leave us a comment. We will appreciate them so much.

That's Yozs' part of the story unveiled. What about Shazzy Azeman's? Will we be able to see n reply to this topic by today? You figure out. Maybe few comments from our beloved readers would do the trick.